Everyone has a right to their opinion, but this is my belief about monogamy.

I have found myself over the years having to explain my opinion on this topic. Just because it is my opinion doesn't mean it is right, and just like the opinions of others that are based on their beliefs, my opinion is personally justified. I decided to write about this topic tonight because I chuckled when someone followed me on Twitter with a polyamourous agenda. I followed him back because I am curious as to why people feel the need to have more than one intimate partner at the same time. However, I still find the argument to be sexist, and maybe that is one of the big difficulties I have with it. If it is OK for men to have multiple wives and partners, the same should be true for women, they should be able to have multiple partners also. The argument for polygamy seems to convey that it is OK for men to need more than one woman to fulfill their needs, but it is not OK for a woman to need more than one man (or woman) to fulfill her needs. Maybe it takes more than one woman to take care of a man's responsibilities? I can see that, but it is also just as easy to hire an accountant, housekeeper, nanny, or landscaper instead of having your wives do all the work around the house. As far as my personal reasons for believing in monogamy, regardless of marital vows, between work, my children, and a partner, I can't imagine having time for more than one partner in my life. Well, unless I was using them to fulfill my needs and not reciprocating. Also, the purpose of being in a relationship is not to fill needs I can fulfill myself. I am capable of loving myself, supporting myself etc. A partner is for companionship, I don't imagine needing more than one person to fulfill this need. If that were the case, I would simply move on and find someone more capable, as should my partner. I realize my opinion on this may be somewhat idealistic, but if monogamy is not possible, I would rather remain single. The funny thing is, if you do not agree with monogamy, all you have to do is NOT date me.

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