Facebook, it's Not You, It's Me.

 

I'm sorry. This relationship just isn't working out. You either show me page ads or self-indulgent and often whiny posts. I don't need that crap. I can feel it has become worse over time. I no longer see what's important to me, only what's important to you. And by the way, I wonder if you will ever realize just how materialistic you've become? I used to know one or two narcissists personally, now I know thousands from seeing popular posts (even though I kept changing it back to most recent) I don't care who or what is most popular, I want to see what is most RELEVANT.

You thought you could control me because you offered a brief reintroduction between me and some of my friends from the past, didn't you? You aren't the only digital linchpin. There are cell phones, email, Twitter-just to name a few. You also thought you had control over me because my job requires I use Facebook, didn't you? Well, I know for a fact that there are over 50 million fake accounts, and now there is one more. You could just use an algorithm to send out notices to all of the fake accounts but choose not to, why is that? Does it make you feel more popular? Or does it increase ad revenue from fake impressions? Well, this is not a fake break-up letter, this is the real deal. I don't need you or your superficial love in the form of "likes." You drive me absolutely crazy with your need for external validation. No one will really ever love you unless you love yourself first.

Our relationship is no longer relevant and only exists to serve you, Facebook. Before it is too late I am cashing in my chips; cutting my losses; returning the merchandise. We will remain work associates, but I have changed my name to a pseudonym so you can never find me again. I will always care about you, but we just were not meant to be together. I thought you would protect me from the evils of the world. When you are part of the problem, you can't be part of the solution.

It's been real, but it hasn't been fun (That's what Google is for).

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